Robert Jaap Stam

29-Nov-1931 - 08-May-2020

Obituary Overview

Lovingly Remembered


STAM, Robert Jaap
November 29, 1931 – May 8, 2020

It is with a very heavy heart that we had to say goodbye to Robert Jaap Stam on May 8th, 2020 at the age of 88. He was the kindest man, adored by all who had the pleasure of knowing him.

Robert was born in the Netherlands and grew up in the town of Heemstede. It was there that he met Martie; they fell in love during a tennis match and their love story continued for over 63 years of marriage. Beyond being a wonderful husband to Martie, he was also a loving brother to Wil, the best dad in the world to Duco (Marijke), Irena (Ken) and Carolien (Paul), an adored Opa to his grandchildren Andrew, Jeroen (Oda), Carly (Roger), Jamie (Joe), Margot (Lisanne), Robyn (Elliott), Lisa and Ainsley (Ege) and his great-grandchildren Jacob and Jefta and two more little ones on the way. Robert and Martie also welcomed Susan (Dave) and their children Liam and Megan with open and inclusive arms into the family.

Robert studied civil engineering and worked for “Bredero” for the majority of his career, in the Netherlands, Belgium, and ultimately in Canada as a project manager in real estate development. Robert was well liked and respected in the industry, fondly remembered as an astute, kind businessman. Although his career was important to him, he always put his family first.

Robert’s giving, selfless nature was felt by so many and will never be forgotten. He spent countless volunteer hours at the Tom Baker Cancer Centre, as well as with the Friends of Fish Creek Provincial Park Society where he coordinated the “Dedication Bench” program. He was a man of many talents; he perfected making his own wine and took on the hobby of learning to play the clarinet at age 70 to perform in a local jazz band.

Robert was the gentlest of souls and he lived his life with integrity and grace. He was a kid at heart, known for spreading his positive energy in a playful manner. He would often initiate a spontaneous game during a family dinner, which would always end in a table full of laughter. He was keen to make a special occasion out of a regular moment; a glass of wine accompanied by homemade snacks and a lit fireplace would make an ordinary hour into a “happy hour”.

A private family Graveside Service will be held at Eden Brook Memorial Gardens. A Celebration of Life will be held at a later date when travel restrictions are lifted and family members living abroad will be able to attend.

Those wishing to make memorial donations in Robert’s memory may forward them to the Tom Baker Cancer Centre: 

https://giving.albertacancer.ca/donate/cancer-centres


Condolences from family and friends

Posted by Carolien Reynolds | 27-Jul-2020


It's been almost three months and it's not getting any easier...its' getting worse. I miss you. Love you, Clien x

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Posted by Patricia Down | 16-May-2020


Thursday morning was my time to volunteer at the Tom Baker Cancer Centre, and I always looked forward to meeting Robert for a little chat. He had a way of brightening the day. It was my honor to serve him coffee and a cookie when he took a wee break from sorting his pamphlets. Us "Thurs. am." group often sat together when we had the pleasure of attending a Volunteer Appreciation Luncheon. I remember occasions at the Calgary Zoo and at Fort Calgary, with pleasant conversations taking place. Robert, you will be missed. My condolences to all the family.

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