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Four Ways to Reduce Funeral Stress
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Funerals are never the easiest of events, but here are four ways to ease the stress:
1. Even when it's sudden, you have more time than you think.
One of the greatest causes of stress around planning and arranging a funeral - especially an unexpected one - is that you have to do it in a very short time. Trying to plan a funeral in just a couple of days can be extremely stressful and frustrating. But the reality is you have more time than you may think.
While it is true that certain aspects require immediate attention, the actual date and arrangements for the funeral can be done on your schedule, within reason. (An exception is that certain religions like Judaism require strict timelines for burial.) The Arbor Memorial branch near you can give you expert advice on any specific requirements.
2. Empower your family by getting information in advance.
For many families, discussing death and funeral planning is uncomfortable. Even in families where a loved one is terminally ill, the idea of discussing funeral arrangements is often seen as morbid, or an indication that the family is “giving up” on the loved one.
Your local Arbor Memorial branch can provide planning materials and information, which allows families to plan in a calm and peaceful way in the privacy of their home. When you can discuss options, look at choices and consider ways of saying goodbye to your loved one, the perspective about the funeral can change dramatically. Funerals will always be stressful events, but knowing what to expect in advance can reduce that stress tremendously.
3. Plan in advance (even shortly in advance) if you can.
Giving your family a funeral plan may be one of the best gifts you ever give them, since they do not need to worry about details, and can come together as a family to grieve without distractions.
Often, a significant cause of stress in planning a funeral is that family members have different ideas about what “dad or mom would have wanted.” Disagreements can occur over whether burial or cremation is desired, what kind of casket is appropriate, what kind of service, what kind of monument, when to have the service, and how much to pay for these arrangements.
Ironically, these disagreements often occur in the most loving families, where different family members have strong opinions on how to honour their deceased family member. Contact us to learn how to create a funeral plan that is as simple or detailed as you want.
4. Connect with a minister or spiritual counsellor to help your family through this time.
End of life is a difficult passage, and for many families the counsel and advice provided by experienced ministers or clergy can be a significant aid. Even for families who may not be actively involved in a faith, the guidance and support can be wonderfully comforting. In addition, many families may need advice on religious traditions that their parents observed, and which they would like to honour.