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The grief of losing a loved one is a very tumultuous and heartbreaking experience for everyone involved. Unfortunately, in the world that we live in, some people disregard this pain entirely and are willing to capitalize on the identity of the deceased. Frequently, individuals engage in such behaviour because they are trying to escape past convictions or outstanding debts. Even after your loved one dies, it is imperative to keep his or her identity safe to avoid the possibility of identity theft. Here are a few steps you can take to secure the identity of your loved one:
Never Disclose Sensitive Information
Thieves can be very crafty in how they conduct their crime and often use publicly known information from social media accounts to gain access to private knowledge. Contact the social media platforms and inform them that a user on their platform has passed away, and that should effectively lock their account or remove it.
Advise Financial Organizations / Government Organizations
The chances are that your loved one has ties with multiple corporations involving financial interactions, which can include banks, credit unions, insurance companies or investment companies, and they all must be notified about the passing of your loved one. Begin with giving them a phone call and make sure you send them proof of death. Ensure that you are keeping documentation about which organizations you’ve reached out to, the date on which you contacted them, and the representative with whom you were in contact. Other relevant documents such as drivers licenses, passports, or social insurance numbers should be handled with extreme caution. Inform government institutions about the death of your relative, and they should effectively make all existing documents null and void.
Routinely Check On Your Loved One’s Credit/ Bank Statements.
Often, identity theft of a deceased person can go unnoticed because there is nobody routinely checking his or her banking and credit statements. This form of theft, often referred to as “ghosting,” can occur for a year or longer before any indication of robbery has taken place. Therefore, it is imperative to check these statements for months after your loved one has passed, and report any suspicious activity to the police.
Stealing the identity of a dead person is a lucrative idea for thieves because they predict that not everyone has taken the necessary precaution to protect their identity from future attacks. When a loved one passes away, family members will try their best to secure all critical certificates and documents from falling into the wrong hands, but cannot guarantee that security. It is important to concern yourself with the protection of yourand your family's private information immediately to save you from dealing with this heinous crime.
Visiting a funeral home to say goodbye to a dear loved one, family or friend, is an amazingly powerful way to say goodbye, in concert, with everyone who was lucky enough to be a part the deceased’s life. Visitations, wakes and memorial services are all moving ways not only to acknowledge the life of the deceased but a way to help ingrain them into your memory forever. Before you visit your deceased loved ones at a wake or a memorial, it is important to remember this is a time of solace, grief and remembrance for someone you held close to your heart; proper etiquette while visiting is of extreme importance. Here are a few etiquette tips to keep in mind while attending a funeral home:
Attending A Wake:
A wake often referred to as a “viewing,” is an event that generally occurs before the actual funeral procession takes place. They are typically hosted at funeral homes or depending on the request of the deceased, in a protected venue where they preferred their funeral be hosted. Although wakes are primarily open to all people that were close to the deceased, if it is not directly specified, you should be honourable and refrain from visiting. Many families prefer to not display their loved ones for anyone outside of their direct family, so be sure that you do not overstep your boundaries and visit uninvited. For wakes, where those that were close to the deceased are welcome to appear, prepare to be emotional. Seeing someone you loved for the last time can be an emotional moment, so you should emotionally prepare yourself. Lastly, no one will make you view the body, proceed with what makes you feel comfortable.
Attending a Visitation:
Many people who attend a visitation are not necessarily close with the deceased but have close ties with the surviving members of the family. It is generally a gesture of good faith to attend a visitation of a close friend, a co-worker or a neighbour that you care deeply about. Depending on how well you know the deceased family’s member, you may stay to offer your condolences, but it is best practice not to stay too long so that everyone visiting has an opportunity to speak to the surviving loved ones.
Memorial services are typically events arranged to commemorate the life of the deceased, which can include a few speeches, a slideshow or a musical performance. It is essential to arrive early for the service, as to not interrupt it when it has already started and stay until the very end to show your respect. Dress in mellow or dull colours as to not stand out in the crowd, it is a service for the deceased, and all attention should be on them. Turn off your cell phones and other devices that could make noises throughout the procession.
We understand the importance to commemorate the life of your loved ones and do so with the utmost respect and compassion. For more information for hosting a wake, visitation or memorial service, contact Valley View Funeral Home & Cemetery today.
Although death is a part of life, losing someone you deeply loved and cared for can be the hardest thing to manage. The pain associated with a deceased loved one can affect family members and friends emotionally and physically, and there is no timetable for when days will begin looking bright again. For those dealing with chronic sadness or depression symptoms, it is important you take time to grieve, but if the grieving seems endless and extreme, it may be wise to try and switch up your daily routine. Here are some helpful methods you can utilize when the grief is just too much:
Arrange Sessions with A Social Worker/ Therapist
Speaking about your feelings and emotions with a social worker or therapist may seem counter-productive as you try and take your mind off the situation, but in many cases, speaking about the things that are troubling you the most may shed new light on the situation. They can introduce you to new coping methods, help you deal with anxieties or intrusive thoughts, and sympathize and empathize with you if you feel your emotions aren’t being taken seriously. They may not be able to cure your sadness, but they will encourage you to think critically about your thoughts and lead you down a path to recovery.
Engage in Activities and Hobbies You Enjoy
The hardest thing to do following the passing of a loved one is taking your mind off them. It is imperative for those suffering from chronic sadness or depression, to take up hobbies and activities that they have a vested interest in. Many people in moments of grief end up abandoning their hobbies to mourn alongside their friends and family, or simply because they’ve recently been preoccupied with everyday responsibilities such as school or work. It is essential to take time for yourself in difficult moments like these and try to remember that life can still be fun and enjoyable after your loved ones have passed. For those with an interest in physical health, go to the gym, go for a run, swim, or bike. For artistic individuals, it can be a good time for you to express your true feelings and emotions in the form of a poem, song, painting and drawing, story or film.
Reach Out as a Comforter to Your Friends & Family
Throughout the mourning process, it can be hard to imagine comforting somebody else when you are suffering just as hard. However, being there as a shoulder to lean on, and ear to listen to, can help you process your grief in a constructive manner, which is to provide solace and comfort to those around you. Discussing with others about how much your deceased loved ones meant to you, sharing stories, and even crying together can help instill feelings of acceptance and happiness as opposed to overwhelming anguish. Reaching out to your family can operate as a coping mechanism for not just yourself, but your family and friends, who will play a significant role in helping alleviate any of your stress or pain.
If you’re like most people in the world, the thought of writing a will to distribute your finances and personal valuables to a specific person in the event of your death only crosses your mind when watching a TV show or book. It may not be the most appealing thing to do during your spare time or day off but composing your very own will comes with several benefits that can help ensure that the money and resources that you’ve worked tirelessly for is safely allocated to a family member, loved one or a good friend.
What Is the Purpose of a Will?
One explanation for people being reluctant to acknowledge, let alone, write a will is that many do not like to consider that one day they will pass away. However, a will has very little to do with you; instead, it concerns itself with ensuring that your family is taken proper care of in the case of your death. A life insurance policy ensures that your family receives necessary funds to keep them financially stable upon your passing. A will, on the other hand, makes sure that all your interests are kept in mind when divvying your assets, in case you would like to share your assets with a charitable organization or someone unrelated to you. It will be up to you to determine which person will be responsible for ensuring the demands in your will are met because without doing so it will be left to the courts to determine the allocation of your assets.
Determines Who Receives What:
A primary function of a will is to ensure that your money and property end up in the right hands. Without a will, your intentions are opaque, and it can create unnecessary tension between members of your family attempting to split your possessions equally. Conflicts can arise when more sentimental possessions are being determined, and a will ensures that your most precious belongings are going to the person you wish to have it most.
For the Protection of Your Children:
For parents with little children, it is especially important to compose a will for the sake of children’s safety and future. Along with outlining how much money your children will inherit after you pass away, if you suddenly passed away you would be able to outline the future of your children and who will be handed with guardianship responsibilities. In many cases, a parent that passed away suddenly without specifying who they wish to look after their children may leave the fate of their child’s guardian up to the courts.
Makes It Easier on Surviving Family Members:
Your family will already be dealing with the grief and sadness of losing you, which can result in skew reasoning and understanding amongst family members. When money and belongings are brought into the discussion so quickly after one’s death, people begin to act irrationally, and tension can begin to spread. Make it easier on your family and be specific in the wishes for your estate and whom you wish to leave your things to.