Important Tips About Funeral Home and Visitation Etiquette
Visiting a funeral home to say goodbye to a dear loved one, family or friend, is an amazingly powerful way to say goodbye, in concert, with everyone who was lucky enough to be a part the deceased’s life. Visitations, wakes and memorial services are all moving ways not only to acknowledge the life of the deceased but a way to help ingrain them into your memory forever. Before you visit your deceased loved ones at a wake or a memorial, it is important to remember this is a time of solace, grief and remembrance for someone you held close to your heart; proper etiquette while visiting is of extreme importance. Here are a few etiquette tips to keep in mind while attending a funeral home:
Attending A Wake:
A wake often referred to as a “viewing,” is an event that generally occurs before the actual funeral procession takes place. They are typically hosted at funeral homes or depending on the request of the deceased, in a protected venue where they preferred their funeral be hosted. Although wakes are primarily open to all people that were close to the deceased, if it is not directly specified, you should be honourable and refrain from visiting. Many families prefer to not display their loved ones for anyone outside of their direct family, so be sure that you do not overstep your boundaries and visit uninvited. For wakes, where those that were close to the deceased are welcome to appear, prepare to be emotional. Seeing someone you loved for the last time can be an emotional moment, so you should emotionally prepare yourself. Lastly, no one will make you view the body, proceed with what makes you feel comfortable.
Attending a Visitation:
Many people who attend a visitation are not necessarily close with the deceased but have close ties with the surviving members of the family. It is generally a gesture of good faith to attend a visitation of a close friend, a co-worker or a neighbour that you care deeply about. Depending on how well you know the deceased family’s member, you may stay to offer your condolences, but it is best practice not to stay too long so that everyone visiting has an opportunity to speak to the surviving loved ones.
Memorial services are typically events arranged to commemorate the life of the deceased, which can include a few speeches, a slideshow or a musical performance. It is essential to arrive early for the service, as to not interrupt it when it has already started and stay until the very end to show your respect. Dress in mellow or dull colours as to not stand out in the crowd, it is a service for the deceased, and all attention should be on them. Turn off your cell phones and other devices that could make noises throughout the procession.
We understand the importance to commemorate the life of your loved ones and do so with the utmost respect and compassion. For more information for hosting a wake, visitation or memorial service, contact Valley View Memorial Gardens today.